Sunday, March 24, 2013
The Marriage Word
Why not let the heterosexuals keep the marriage word for their unions. They have made a mess of it anyway. Of the 50% that do stay together, many of those are simply a man and a woman who tolerate one another as they go about cobbling a life of other activities and friendships. Occasionally they do something together that they both enjoy. Sounds kind of grim? You say that is not your marriage? You are in the minority. It may be a hopeful minority, but a minority none the less. I have heard the whimsical quote, "Marriage is the tomb of love." I used to think that if people married they would stay together, be happier, and more committed. The numbers don't support this. So you gay and lesbians, go find another word. The marriage word seems to have lost some power for happiness.
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Marriage historically wasn't about love, it was more about partnership and creating a foundation for the creation of family and community. In the days of arranged marriages, I think there was a more realistic expectation that marriage would create family - not necessarily love.
ReplyDeleteIt is about commitment. That is a word that doesn't have the emotional baggage like the word marriage does - so how about commitment, or partnership, or even incorporation - they all speak to the founding of an new entity - based in economics or love - does it matter?
Love may not last - but economics do.
My marriage has brought me happiness. We are committed to each other and to our children. I lived the bachelor life longer than most because I took marriage more seriously than some. I love her more than ever...She is caring, gentle, forgiving and never judges anyone...The church should welcome the gays and lesbians back...The Eucharist; the beatitudes are for everyone!
ReplyDeleteMy marriage is ordinary, as you say. People change during their journey. But the commitment is still there. I made a promise which I will keep--it is easy to walk away--but God challenges us to look deeper, work harder, and help each other bear our crosses. Why shouldn't gays have the word marriage? It is about commitment, a desire to build a life together. God loves us all, right? We are all equals in his eyes.
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