Selfless

If you want to talk to someone about a spiritual practice look for a selfless person.  A lot of people can talk about prayer and how to live correctly, but if they are not selfless, their "wisdom" came from books.  You don't need information.  You need transformation.  One aspect of the selfless person is that they do not judge others.  You know this by the fact that they don't try to run other people's lives. The selfless person does not have to control everyone and everything around them.  The world is not all about them and their ideas of how things ought to be.  The selfless person might have opinions, suggestions, a point of view, but they don't try to make you conform to any of this.  They care about other people.  They are connected to others because they are connected to their own interior life.  Fear does not rule them.  They probably do not even think of themselves as selfless.