Popularity

 Sobriety is not about popularity, being liked by others.  Your shortcomings in social situations might not be conducive to being included, liked, popular.  You get sober, work the steps first because you are worth it, even if others don't seem to be drawn to you.  Secondly, you work the program to be of service to others as best you can.  It is not selfless to do service, become helpful, so that others will like you.  Why should you help someone who is not particularly friendly to you?  Because you want to change you.  You have no control over their choice of friends or behavior in your regard.  When you were drunk you had no friends.  You only thought you did.  Anyhow, with little social life, you get a lot more solitude!  I have lots of solitude time.  Maybe I have no friends?