The Hug

In the musical. "Waitress"  the waitress, Jenna, who is in a loveless marriage, says that what she really dreams of is a long hug full of selflessness.  How rare such a hug was in her life, and maybe in the life of many of us, especially women.  Hugs often have "attachments" or "clauses" to them, unspoken but still thought and expected.  A person might hug you because they want something from you.  The hug is part of a silent negotiation.  After a while, the couple know what the negotiation issue is.  Hugs might be to get sex, or to be forgiven, or to get you to give or do something else, or simply because it is expected protocol.  But a selfless hug, that is precious.  Remember Olaf, the snowman, in "Frozen"?  He said that he liked hugs.  You cannot get much from hugging a snowman, so all his received hugs are rather selfless.  He gets hugged simply because the hugger likes Olaf.  We could all use selfless hugs to thaw a frozen heart.  Hmmm.  Chilly in here.