Losing

I have found that one way to keep a relationship intact, is to start losing fights and arguments.  We all get into disagreements.  Sometimes you both go back to your corners and await another round to pick up the battle.  It has been a hard lesson to learn, but I have started losing arguments about how things should be.  I guess this is surrender.  Resentments, judgments, anger, whining, and bondage to self all seem to slip away.  So I did not get my way, but I feel better and am still connected with the other person in some tranquility.  I cannot help being right all the time!  It is my cross.  And a lot of needless suffering goes with this cross.  I have become a more contented loser.  Hmmm.