Forgiveness.

When I forgive someone, I have a sense of hope.  It is an act of hope.  I realize that God is working in them somehow, or else I would not have much hope for their change.  When I refuse to forgive it is when I see the person as bad, and guilty.  I have no hope that they can change.  But regardless, if I can forgive someone, I set myself free of judgments, revenge, hate.  I am working on my change for the better.  Why should we both be stuck.