Service

 One way of being of service is to use fewer words.  Like what?  Well, if someone says, “How are you?”  And you have some physical issue, just state the issue.  Simply.  Information can create and feed a relationship, but let the other person decide how much they want to know, which is, how much they want to befriend you.  Say you tripped recently and hurt your shoulder in the fall.  Your response can be simple:  “I tripped and bruised my shoulder.”  That is it.  How is that being of service?  It allows the other person to ask more or not.  If they are uninterested, why assume they are interested?  They may not want that much of a relationship, or their time to be taken up with listening to you.  Allow them to ask for more information.  If they change the subject or say, “Have a nice day,” then you have not burdened them with your miseries.  And you have found that this relationship is not worth your time either.  Which is a service to yourself.