In Love

 A lot of people are able to be "in love," but not able to love.  What?  "In love" is emotionally charged and is more about one's feeling good than about the other person.  When "in love" we go out of our way to please, impress, and even control the other person so that they will give us what we want.  We will seem to be our best self, but it is really a false self because it is love turned inward.  That is why so many young people and others who are into arrested growing up, pick up and drop partners, lovers, companions on a rather frequent basis.  Some people cannot "find love" because it is more about getting and not giving.  Giving is a lot of "letting go" and not getting our preferences.  It is about forgiveness, acceptance, imperfections.  One learns to love only after one discovers their own flaws, faults, shortcomings.  It is a sobering experience but a step toward fulfillment in giving and service to another.