Weakness

 It is normal for the persons of any group to have weaknesses, faults, irritating habits, because this is the human condition.  Some people leave a group because of these irritants.  They want a group where people are "better" according to one's demands.  There is no perfect group.  I have found this out even in a monastery.  My spiritual task is to grow with this imperfect group of which I am a part.  Notice, they don't have to change for me to grow.  In fact, I am meant to pursue and grow in a spiritual dimension with this group just as they are.  So who will change?  Me.  And they are expected to grow having to put up with me.  But I am not in charge of them.  Acceptance.