Four Part Discovery

I have found a way to have a bit of serenity in my life, but it requires some brutal honesty and courage.  If I resent someone or something, some situation, I write it down. Then I ask myself what happened, that is, why do I have this resentment.  I resent John.  Why?  What happened?  He ate my private stash of candy, though there was no label on it that said, "Terry Candy. Do not touch."  What was my response?  Anger, self-pity, whining, dislike and fear that I will have a life without candy.  With all those lethal feelings, I am having a rather bad time of it.  But there is one more step.  I ask the question: "What is my part in this resentment?"  Grace shines a light on the reality that I am selfish, stingy, and gluttoness.  I have control issues about my stash.  I hoard.  Why not share my candy?  Horrors!  Share?  Yes, I realize that my problem, my resentment is my own doing.  But now I can act so that I will let go of the resentment and feel better.  Let go of fear and share.  John gets candy freely given and I have a better day.  Four part solution.  I did not invent it.  You can find it in the fourth step of recovery programs' twelve steps.