Honesty

 Honesty is very important for me.  But it is more than just telling the truth to others.  It is telling the truth to myself.  I need to know on a daily basis who I am and who I am becoming.  Fantasy does not help.  It just passes time, which is limited for all of us.  To make sure I am telling my own truth, I sometimes need to check in with others who are also trying to be honest with themself  and in turn being honest with the rest of us.  Sometimes, I need to hear someone else talk about being selfish, or resentful, or simply whiny, to recognize it in me.  This way, I see a shortcoming and work honestly to be rid of its power at this time.