The Goal

Acceptance is not to make us feel better about a situation, but to transform us.  Acceptance is more than an emotional shift from anger and resentment into some more cozy feeling.  We are not trying so much to pacify the emotions as to accept a cross and its power.  What power is any cross?  Its power is in letting go of control, of needing to be in charge, becoming forgiving and even loving the mess in which you find yourself.  You cannot do this alone.  You will need some greater power than your own self.  "I feel good," is a passing emotion, as are all emotions.  Feeling good can be enjoyed for the moment, but it will mot bring you to become all that you can be.  That is the importance of the cross.  Even God, if you are a Christian, revealed all that God is in Jesus of Nazareth, through the cross.  This did not make people "feel good" so they abandoned him.