Tuesday, May 23, 2017
It seems that most of us feel that being included is important. So when we "don't get the memo" we can experience the feeling of being on the outside and looking in. I have found that when people don't include me it is most often because my having the information does not add to their happiness. Say what? First, they are not being malicious. They are simply self-focused. The same people that ignore me, will suddenly inform and include me when they need me to know something to make their lives go better. You can test this out for yourself. If it is so, then my getting angry at them or trying to get them to change, will make no difference in their actions, but will just frustrate me. People don't change unless they have to for their own happiness. But you say, "Oh no. So and so changed to make me happy." I suggest that they changed not so much because it would make you happy, but because your happiness made them happy. Not all people are like this of course, but the ones that sometimes exclude and sometimes include you, are. It is basic self-centeredness, and that is only cured by a spiritual solution.