Willingness

 What are you willing to do to stay sober, to not drink?  Nothing but say “No” to a drink?  If so, then you are entering into the world of a “dry drunk.”  You will begin to have lots of negative feelings, moodiness, blaming everything and everyone.  Then you will take a drink, as the old solution to feeling better.  Notice, you “take” a drink.  You are a taker and not a giver.  Well, you do give people a hard time, a bit of your foul moodiness, and opinions.  This is all to take solace in feeling better, for the moment.  But a “giver” in recovery is one who first gives themself to the program of recovery.  Surrender is an act of giving.  You give the mess of your life over to a group and a process, step by step to becoming a person you did not know you could become.  Willingness is the road to becoming a giver.  It will get better.