Sex Too Soon

 Sex too soon in a new relationship is problematic.  It can keep you in a relationship when it is pretty obvious that you need to get out, it is over.  Sex can give you the sense that you have made some commitment that in fact you have not really been able to make.  Sex can become an “implied” commitment.  And the other person may be a wonderful person, a great person, but just not someone great for you.  So it is important to know who you are and sex won’t do that.  Sex can also be as escape from super lonely.  But most often, “too soon” sex makes you feel lonelier.  And you still don’t know the other person.  That takes time.  And skill.