Thursday, September 4, 2014
I read this and pass it on. "Forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past." It stopped me in my tracks. I need to live in today. It is all I have. If I get up in the morning and am resentful about some past event, I cannot focus on preparing for today, with hopes and needs. Why do I dwell on the unchangeable yesterday? This is not the same as talking to someone or doing something about a past situation in order to effect the future. I sometimes hold onto forgiveness until someone changes or apologizes to me. Neither of these things changes what happened in the past. When I see forgiveness as having little to do with someone else's behavior, and a lot to do with me hoping for a better past, it becomes easier to forgive. Forgiveness is about changing me and not someone else. I might avoid a person or place, but I stop trying to change them to make me happier. I might not forget. Some of us Irish don't forget.