Grace

 You cannot love God or anyone for that matter.  But you can want to love.  You fall in love with this person but not that person.  Did you choose to fall in love with this one person?  No.  Saints can love everyone.  The rest of us rely on grace/gift.  You meet several people in a group but only one attracts you.  You did not make it happen.  The attraction is a gift.  In a partnership or marriage, the going gets rough, but you decide to stay and be loving.  The attraction of the other person is gone.  But you decide to love.  The decision is a gift.  From where?  From the source of all love.  God is love.  To the non-believer God is anonymous.  You can only want to love God.  The attraction is gift.  Someone says, “I have decided to get sober.”  If they think it is their own decision, and not a gift, they will simply empower their own self-will to stop the addiction.  They will fail.  Sobriety is a gift and you work to hold onto it.