Gossip

 I have no control over people with whom I live or work.  I could get angry at them, be rude, or condescending.  But more often than not I tend to deal with these control issues by gossip with whoever will listen.  I can even develop my favorite gossip friends, the ones who will listen with pleasure.  And of course I never bother to look at my part in the behavior of others.  Gossip interferes with self-examination.  No 10th step for me.  A truly bazaar way to gossip is to get drunk alone, and gossip out loud about others to no one, since there is no one else in the room.  One would need 11 more steps for that one.  But what would I know?