Thursday, August 18, 2016
If Margo liked you, trusted that you were basically a good person who was about to make a not so good decision she would say something like, "Don't be a jerk." I liked this type of phrase because it does not accuse you of being a jerk. It is not judgmental. It says that you are not yet a jerk, but if you go down a certain path, that is the path of jerkiness. You are a good person with options. Of course, me being somewhat dull, I would have to ask her what she would recommend. She would give a solution and then give the reasons why she would choose this particular solution. So I would have a chance to learn something as well. If you tell someone to their face that you think them a jerk, then they will resist any change. They will not listen to you. Beware of the bruised ego. It has trouble changing course.