Opposites

 Impulsive, self-activated activity is incompatible with surrender.  Self-will can be the signal that we are moving away from any surrender.  If your life was or is a mess at the moment, full of chaos, you might ask if surrender to a will or program, or activity other than your self-will might be the answer.  Or the beginning of an answer that will be positive.  Surrender might begin by letting go of your tight grip on whatever is part of your unhappiness.  We just stop doing whatever is stressing our life.  People stop ingesting their addiction, stop focusing on a problem that at the moment is not solvable by oneself alone.  You stop.  A spiritual path is meant to help you to stay stopped.  Bad stuff happens if we keep doing bad stuff.  And good stuff happens when we discover what is the good action, and do it.