Finding Temper

Most of us have to work on not losing our temper.  But some people have to learn to find their temper.  They have trouble getting angry because they do not love themselves enough.  They tend to think that whatever happened to them they deserved because they are bad or stupid or just a mess.  They cannot forgive anyone, or have much of a resentment, given this condition.  They have to first learn to love themselves enough to see that they were wronged and it was not their fault, or at least not all their fault.  Then they can get angry and then work on forgiveness.  For some of us, anger is a dangerous emotion.  But it might be better than not loving ourselves at all.  I may be a mess, but I am a lovable mess.  I have lovable, messy friends too.