Unbelief

 "Don't believe everything you think," is a famous quote.  How true.  You think something is a problem when in fact it is a solution waiting to happen.  But you don't think about a solution because you are full of self-pity from frustration and melodrama.  Self-pity stories have inherent flaws, as someone said.  Insanity is to live in the unreal world where there are no solutions in your life.  The attraction of no solution is that you get to wallow in your own misery.  OK, for a few minutes to wallow in a feeling.  But then get on with action because self-pity is not a feeling.  It is a character defect.  You don't cut yourself off from feelings.  You recognize them but don't drink them away.  Feel and move on with a solution which is action.