In my rectory in San Francisco, 10 priests live. Some simply do not clean up. They have low housekeeping skills or low interest. I like to clean up after them because it allows me to be of service AND to check my tendency to judge others, generally as so much worse than me. When I clean up after them I get to check what I am thinking about my housemates. If I am into acceptance, at peace, feeling uplifted by being of service, then I know that I am truly on a spiritual path of growth. Change does not come from simply sitting in meditation and letting go of stuff. This is only part one. There is a part two: action in the everyday world. That is where I test for the fruits of my prayer. As for getting people to do what I want them to do? That ain't never gonna happen!