Someone said that when you don't know what to do, then do what you know. So say that you don't know how to deal with or respond to a situation. It could be something new to you, this situation. Not to worry. Pick up the phone and call someone who might be able to help you. This is one of the reasons we seek friendship and seek people who are on the same spiritual path of trying to grow, or avoid misery, as we are. You make these human connections before you get into crisis situations. Then when something new happens, the unexpected, you can call someone who knows you and gives you some perspective. I try not to go through life alone on this journey. Spouses and co-workers or teammates are not always on the path you need when you need advice on what to do in a new situation. Those people fill other parts of your life. Your spouse may be your best friend, but not your best advisor. A good advisor knows you but never judges you. They have no hidden agenda. They are there for you. I have found it so.