Something does not go my way. So I get angry. In anger, I take dishes from the kitchen and throw them against a wall. More things don't go my way. More anger response. More dishes thrown agains the wall. Eventually, I run out of dishes and the wall is trashed. Solution? Buy more dishes and repair wall. Then get angry and behavior is repeated. Now, you say, that is insanity. Yes, it is. It is not a solution to things failing to go my way but I repeat my solution. Don't judge. Rather ask yourself the next time something does not go your way, and you get angry, "Is this the first time I got angry over this situation?" Humbling, no? You may have your dishes and wall but you are no more in the solution than I am.