What I find to be a gift in my life is a group of people who invite me back when I am at my worst behavior. So many groups want nothing to do with us when we are irascible, irritating, judgmental, narrow- minded, and discontented with life. "Go away, and never darken this door again," is what we might hear. Bosses fire us. Significant others dump us. Social clubs cancel our membership or don't renew it. A truly accepting group that might eventually help in healing someone is a group that keeps inviting you back even if you don't know you are a mess, or what to do about your mess. Are there such groups around? Yes. They usually meet in church basements. Upstairs in the sanctuaries, acceptance is a little more narrow.