Change

Why do people have so much trouble changing their behavior or their attitude?  They have the desire.  So what is missing?  The inside work that must go before the outsides will change.  Will power to change is not enough, especially if we have developed a bad habit or addiction.  Wanting is a start, yes.  But we have to work on the insides, the heart, with some meditation practice that has a "letting go" element to it.  Detach from our focus on what bothers us, what distracts us, what consumes us, that is, from the incessant attachment to the self.  It is not all about you.  The anxiety, worry, resentment, fear, obsessions, that chain you to misery will begin to lose their power.  Into the space made by this detachment comes some peace, serenity, and then the power to make the outside changes, the attitude changes.  You will see with new eyes and feel with a new heart.