Become What You Don’t See

 If you attend some group or in person meeting or event and begin to criticize what people do or don’t do, why don’t you become the person you think others should be?  If you don’t see anyone welcoming you as a newcomer or first-timer, rather than walk away with a negative judgment, why not start doing what it is that you think others should be doing?  This gets you from thinking about yourself and judging others, to thinking about others and dropping judgments.  Judgments gain us little if anything, but action is what changes us.  And if you find yourself saying, “Why do I have to do everything?” You might want to get a second opinion as to whether this is whining or a legit complaint.  For me, it is usually whining.  Which is why I need outside help in managing my life.