Two Views

 You can look at a situation and see it as how the world has victimized you.  Solution? Whine, fill up with self-pity and have a drink or some other escape.  Nothing gets better.  The situation remains and you wallow in your negativity.  On the other hand, you might see the same situation and look at your defects, shortcomings.  And stay sober while you do.  You might even seek the advice or opinion of another person about how you are feeling and what you might need to change in yourself.  The outsides might change because you are changing in your attitude.  You might find a new energy for action devoid of your faults, since you are aware of how those can take you to an even darker place.  Become a light instead of adding to your sense of the darkness.